Posts Tagged ‘attitude’
Why Love YOU?
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Counselling, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Positive Vibes, Psychology, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Workshops, tagged Anxiety, attitude, Belonging, BSc, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Creativity, Develop, Esteem, Face-to-Face, Family, Fear, Friendships, help, how, Identity, Insight, Lessons, Life, Love, Maslow, MBACP, MBPsS, Mental health, Mindfulness, Movement, MSc, Needs, Online, Personal Development, Personality, Psychology, Relate, relationship, Relationships, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Safety, Self-esteem, Sex, SFBT, Stability, Supervision, Support, Survival, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, what, When, why, Work-Life Balance, You on October 2, 2012| 1 Comment »
Human beings are born with an innate survival instinct. Maslow (1954) identified a hierarchy of needs (from lower to higher level order needs: biological and physiological needs, safety needs, belongings and love needs, esteem needs, and self-actualisation needs) whereby basic needs must be fulfilled before higher level order needs can be addressed. It goes without saying that most of our physiological needs determine survival, such as air to breathe, food and drink, as well as shelter, warmth, and the capability to reproduce in order to survive. Safety needs include shelter from the elements, security, law and stability to name but a few examples. These are also crucial to our survival. Belongings and love needs are highly sought after in so far as developing and maintaining relationships, and raising a family. Moreover, a sense of belongingness is vital to developing meaningful relationships with others within the local community and within the workplace.
Life experiences may impact on the capability of attaining certain needs and thus, can lead to a fluctuation between these levels. To reach self-actualisation, an individual first needs to meet all lower level needs, aim to achieve self-fulfilment, realising their personal potential, to seek personal growth and to strive to be the best they can possibly be. Remember, Love You begins with YOU.
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
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My Happy List
Posted in Beginnings, Counselling, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Positive Vibes, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Supervision, Support, Training, Work-Life Balance, tagged ACTO, Animals, Art, Arts, attitude, BSc, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Crafts, Creative, Creative Writing, Creativity, Difference, Drawing, Exercise, Face-to-Face, Family, Friendship, Games, Happiness, Happy, Health, help, Identity, Inspiration, Journey, MBACP, MBPsS, Mental health, Motivation, Movement, MSc, Music, Online, Performance, Personality, Play, Positive, Positive Vibes, Process, relationship, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, School, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, Support, Training, Understanding, Work, Work-Life Balance, Writing on September 29, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Think of what makes YOU happy.
It’s important to remember the good times, what you’re good at, what makes you happy and what keeps you going. Here’s one little activity that is proven to boost your self-esteem and increase positivity.
For me, it was music…
“I would listen to music on the radio a lot as a child and young person. I also played lots of ‘feel good’ music on cassette tapes and sang in front of the mirror. I would write poetry initially and then started to write songs. This got me through some of the difficult times.” ~ Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (@RRS_counselling)
Some of my face-to-face and online clients have used a similar idea to ‘My Happy List’. A few have informed me that’s it’s nice to keep a mini version in their wallet/purse as a keep-sake if times get a bit tough, and others write words or doodle on theirs, then get a laminated copy on their fridge where they can see it everyday.
Be inspired. Have a go…
***Please check out this resource, it’s absolutely FREE to download. You’re welcome to print it off too.***
Let me know what you think.
All the best,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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Positive Vibes Project Launch
Posted in Counselling, Mental Health, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Support, Training, Work-Life Balance, tagged Affirmation, Art, Aspiration, attitude, Baking, Challenge, Change, Cooking, Counselling, Courgae, Create, Creation, Creative, Creativity, CV, CV Doctor, Dance, Dear Roxana, Experiment, Friendship, Growth, Health, help, Hope, Identity, Illustration, Inspire, Journal, Love, Mental health, Motivation, Movement, Music, Personality, Photography, Positive Vibes, Positivity, relationship, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Sketch, Sport, Stress, Support, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Vibes, Wellbeing, Wellness, Work-Life Balance on September 1, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Positive Vibes is a new mental health and wellbeing project in association with RRS Counselling Services and will be launched in September 2012.
Founder/Owner of RRS Counselling Services, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, was recently short-listed as a ‘Professional Hero – Therapist’ by mental health organisation http://www.mentalhealthy.co.uk and national charities SANE, The Mental Health Foundation, The centre for Mental Health and Emergence, being recognised for her fantastic achievements within mental health since 2006.
The principal aims of Positive Vibes Project are to:
- raise awareness of common mental health and wellbeing issues, and in particular, learning new ways of coping, self-expression and how one may be able to overcome adversity
- share beliefs and insight to promote positive vibes (i.e. positive mental health, wellbeing and wellness) through creative forms of self-expression
- communicate through creativity, including music, photography, art, creative writing to name but a few examples
- personal development
Overall, we aspire to promote positive attitudes towards mental health and wellbeing, sharing and inspiring creativity, and helping you to be the best you can be.
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Identity: I Am Me
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Resolutions, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, BSc, Bullying, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Creative, Creativity, Depression, Differences, Different, Emotions, Exclusion, Face-to-Face, Fear, help, Human, I, Identity, Individual, Insecurity, Irrational, Isolation, MBACP, MBPsS, ME, Mental health, Movement, MSc, OCD, Online, Other, Person, Personality, relationship, Risk, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, Self, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, Support, Training, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Work, Work-Life Balance on July 9, 2012| Leave a Comment »
“I Am Me and I Accept Myself As I Am.” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw)
This article aims to explore Identity… Who am I? What am I? How am I? We will explore what the most common aspects of identity are, such as the ‘Who’, ‘What’ and ‘How’, as well as considering misidentity and a sense of being expected to ‘fit in’. Our understanding of the notion ‘Identity’ refers to, but is not limited to biological, physiological, sociological, psychological and emotional elements of human beings. In a nutshell, over the next few weeks, I will present to you ideas, research, case studies, share my beliefs, values, and express opinions, to raise awareness, provide insights and facilitate a better understanding of you getting to know your own identity.
What is Identity?
Identity is a term that describes “A sense of continuity and sameness and of defining yourself on your own terms” (Nelson-Jones, 1986). Put simply, this suggests that YOU define who you are. However, identity is much more complex because there are a vast amount of internal and external factors at play which may influence who we are or who we become. I will briefly outline these aspects in the following sections: Who Am I? What Am I? How Am I?
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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Love You
Posted in Beginnings, Counselling, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, BSc, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Face-to-Face, help, Identity, MBACP, MBPsS, Mental health, Movement, MSc, Online, Personality, relationship, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, Support, Training, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Work-Life Balance on July 2, 2012| Leave a Comment »
“It’s important for us to acknowledge our number one asset…OURSELVES” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw)
This article aims to explore why and how to Love You, as well as how not to Love You. Our understanding of the notion ‘Love You’ refers to the ability of accepting oneself as a worthy and unique human being, to respect personal values and beliefs, to embrace individual differences, as well as to have an awareness of reality versus myths about body image. We endeavour to offer informative, thought-provoking and at times, challenging ideas rooted in theory and research, as well as personal opinion, beliefs and insights in the hope of promoting positive mental health and wellbeing.
Why Love You?
Human beings are born with an innate survival instinct. Maslow (1954) identified a hierarchy of needs (from lower to higher level order needs: biological and physiological needs, safety needs, belongings and love needs, esteem needs, and self-actualisation needs) whereby basic needs must be fulfilled before higher level order needs can be addressed. It goes without saying that most of our physiological needs determine survival, such as air to breathe, food and drink, as well as shelter, warmth, and the capability to reproduce in order to survive. Safety needs include shelter from the elements, security, law and stability to name but a few examples. These are also crucial to our survival. Belongings and love needs are highly sought after in so far as developing and maintaining relationships, and raising a family. Moreover, a sense of belongingness is vital to developing meaningful relationships with others within the local community and within the workplace.
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
© RRS Counselling Services. All Rights Reserved.
Body Image
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, New Year, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, Body, Bullying, Celebrity, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Depression, Fashion, Fear, Food, help, Identity, Image, Irrational, Isolation, MBPsS, Mental health, Model, OCD, Online, Personality, Retail, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, Rumination, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, trust, Understanding, Weight, Work-Life Balance, Worry on May 30, 2012| Leave a Comment »
What is Body Image? What are the most common factors that determine Body Image? What are the consequences of Negative Body Image? And how can counselling help me?
Definition of Body Image:
“Body Image is your Self Perceived image of your outward appearance, visible to others.” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, 2012)
The most common factors that determine Body Image:
- Family and Friends
- Peer Pressure
- Drawing comparisons with others
- Popular Culture (e.g. music videos, glossy mags)
- TV Advertisements
- Unrealistic goals
- Focus on results (e.g. weight loss)
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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Perfectionism
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Exam Stress, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, OCD, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, Belief, Change, Counselling, Depression, Development, Expectations, Focus, Goals, Irrational, Mental health, Mistrust, OCD, Outcome, Over Thinking, Perfect, Perfectionism, Personality, Realistic, Restless, Results, Risk, Rumination, Self-esteem, Stress, Support, Training, Traits, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Work on May 2, 2012| Leave a Comment »
How realistic is the strive for perfection?
What is Perfectionism? What are the most common signs? What are the consequences? And how can counselling help me?
Definition of Perfectionism:
“A perfectionist is someone with very high expectations of self who often strives to be perfect. Being a perfectionist can lead to having a good work ethic. However, some issues may include dissatisfaction, inability to meet high expectations, and risk of mental health issues such as depression.” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, 2012)
The most common signs of Perfectionism:
- Drawing comparisons with others
- Setting high expectations
- Unrealistic goals
- Focus on results
- Can be difficult to engage
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc, BSc, MBACP, MBPsS)
RRS Counselling Services
http://www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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New Year, New Start
Posted in Beginnings, Endings, Help, Mental Health, New Year, Online, Psychology, Resolutions, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Support, Work-Life Balance, tagged 2012, ACTO, attitude, BSc, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Creativity, help, Identity, MBACP, MBPsS, Mental health, Movement, New Year, Online, Personality, relationship, Resolutions, Risk, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, Support, Training, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Work-Life Balance on January 3, 2012| Leave a Comment »
We are already a few days into the New Year…
Has the start of 2012 been the Happy time we wish each other and subsequently pre-empted it to be? Has the pressure of trying to keep to New Year’s Resolutions been too much? Perhaps you are feeling stressed out with going back to work, college or university? Or anxious about finances and/or unemployment? Alternatively, you may view 2012 as your lucky break to finding new opportunities?
Whatever your thoughts and feelings about 2012, it is important to let go of the past that can no longer be changed. Ultimately, YOU are in control of your own thoughts, feelings, actions, and able to make choices that may be able to help you to move forwards toward your goals.
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
© RRS Counselling Services. All Rights Reserved.
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