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Why Love YOU?
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Counselling, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Positive Vibes, Psychology, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Workshops, tagged Anxiety, attitude, Belonging, BSc, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Creativity, Develop, Esteem, Face-to-Face, Family, Fear, Friendships, help, how, Identity, Insight, Lessons, Life, Love, Maslow, MBACP, MBPsS, Mental health, Mindfulness, Movement, MSc, Needs, Online, Personal Development, Personality, Psychology, Relate, relationship, Relationships, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Safety, Self-esteem, Sex, SFBT, Stability, Supervision, Support, Survival, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, what, When, why, Work-Life Balance, You on October 2, 2012| 1 Comment »
Human beings are born with an innate survival instinct. Maslow (1954) identified a hierarchy of needs (from lower to higher level order needs: biological and physiological needs, safety needs, belongings and love needs, esteem needs, and self-actualisation needs) whereby basic needs must be fulfilled before higher level order needs can be addressed. It goes without saying that most of our physiological needs determine survival, such as air to breathe, food and drink, as well as shelter, warmth, and the capability to reproduce in order to survive. Safety needs include shelter from the elements, security, law and stability to name but a few examples. These are also crucial to our survival. Belongings and love needs are highly sought after in so far as developing and maintaining relationships, and raising a family. Moreover, a sense of belongingness is vital to developing meaningful relationships with others within the local community and within the workplace.
Life experiences may impact on the capability of attaining certain needs and thus, can lead to a fluctuation between these levels. To reach self-actualisation, an individual first needs to meet all lower level needs, aim to achieve self-fulfilment, realising their personal potential, to seek personal growth and to strive to be the best they can possibly be. Remember, Love You begins with YOU.
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
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DISCUSSION: Is Individuality OK?
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, New Year, OCD, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Accept, Acceptable, Age, Appearance, Barbie, Beautiful, Body Image, Bullying, Change, Cosmetic Surgery, Cousnelling, Culture, Difference, Different, Discussion, Ethnicity, Fear, Figure, Future, Gender, Height, help, Home, Hope, Individual, Invisible, Life, Looks, Magazines, Nature, Nurture, OK, Past, People, Personal, Photographs, Rejection, relationship, Relationships, School, Sex, Sexuality, Similarity, Supevision, Support, Tattoo, Ugly, Uncertainty, Uniform, Unique, Values, Weight, Work, Workplace on July 17, 2012| 1 Comment »
What do you think about Individuality?
Is it OK to be different and stand out from the rest of the crowd?
Are there times when being different is not OK?
Feel free to share your views, beliefs and personal experiences if you want to. However, if you have a personal experience to share, please be mindful that others may be reading what you write in this public space.
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Love You
Posted in Beginnings, Counselling, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, BSc, CBT, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Face-to-Face, help, Identity, MBACP, MBPsS, Mental health, Movement, MSc, Online, Personality, relationship, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, Support, Training, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Work-Life Balance on July 2, 2012| Leave a Comment »
“It’s important for us to acknowledge our number one asset…OURSELVES” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw)
This article aims to explore why and how to Love You, as well as how not to Love You. Our understanding of the notion ‘Love You’ refers to the ability of accepting oneself as a worthy and unique human being, to respect personal values and beliefs, to embrace individual differences, as well as to have an awareness of reality versus myths about body image. We endeavour to offer informative, thought-provoking and at times, challenging ideas rooted in theory and research, as well as personal opinion, beliefs and insights in the hope of promoting positive mental health and wellbeing.
Why Love You?
Human beings are born with an innate survival instinct. Maslow (1954) identified a hierarchy of needs (from lower to higher level order needs: biological and physiological needs, safety needs, belongings and love needs, esteem needs, and self-actualisation needs) whereby basic needs must be fulfilled before higher level order needs can be addressed. It goes without saying that most of our physiological needs determine survival, such as air to breathe, food and drink, as well as shelter, warmth, and the capability to reproduce in order to survive. Safety needs include shelter from the elements, security, law and stability to name but a few examples. These are also crucial to our survival. Belongings and love needs are highly sought after in so far as developing and maintaining relationships, and raising a family. Moreover, a sense of belongingness is vital to developing meaningful relationships with others within the local community and within the workplace.
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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Body Image
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, New Year, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, Body, Bullying, Celebrity, Change, Consequences, Counselling, Depression, Fashion, Fear, Food, help, Identity, Image, Irrational, Isolation, MBPsS, Mental health, Model, OCD, Online, Personality, Retail, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, Rumination, Self-esteem, SFBT, Supervision, trust, Understanding, Weight, Work-Life Balance, Worry on May 30, 2012| Leave a Comment »
What is Body Image? What are the most common factors that determine Body Image? What are the consequences of Negative Body Image? And how can counselling help me?
Definition of Body Image:
“Body Image is your Self Perceived image of your outward appearance, visible to others.” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, 2012)
The most common factors that determine Body Image:
- Family and Friends
- Peer Pressure
- Drawing comparisons with others
- Popular Culture (e.g. music videos, glossy mags)
- TV Advertisements
- Unrealistic goals
- Focus on results (e.g. weight loss)
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
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Perfectionism
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Exam Stress, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, OCD, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, attitude, Belief, Change, Counselling, Depression, Development, Expectations, Focus, Goals, Irrational, Mental health, Mistrust, OCD, Outcome, Over Thinking, Perfect, Perfectionism, Personality, Realistic, Restless, Results, Risk, Rumination, Self-esteem, Stress, Support, Training, Traits, trust, Uncertainty, Understanding, Work on May 2, 2012| Leave a Comment »
How realistic is the strive for perfection?
What is Perfectionism? What are the most common signs? What are the consequences? And how can counselling help me?
Definition of Perfectionism:
“A perfectionist is someone with very high expectations of self who often strives to be perfect. Being a perfectionist can lead to having a good work ethic. However, some issues may include dissatisfaction, inability to meet high expectations, and risk of mental health issues such as depression.” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, 2012)
The most common signs of Perfectionism:
- Drawing comparisons with others
- Setting high expectations
- Unrealistic goals
- Focus on results
- Can be difficult to engage
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc, BSc, MBACP, MBPsS)
RRS Counselling Services
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OCD
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Counselling, Help, Mental Health, New Year, OCD, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, Aversion Technique, Bipolar, CBT, Challenge, Change, Cognition, Collector, Compulsion, Counselling, Death, Disorder, Elation, Fear, Forgetting, help, Hoarder, Hoarding, Intrusive Thoughts, Irrational, Mental health, Mindfull, Obsession, OCD, Panic Attack, Phobia, Psychosis, Risk, Rituals, Ruminating, SFBT, Stress, Support, Training on April 2, 2012| 3 Comments »
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder characterised by two main elements, namely obsession and compulsion. To the individual with OCD, the compulsion is often a thought, belief or behaviour (ritual) that occurs as a direct result of their obsession.
What is OCD? Cases of OCD? What are the most common signs? What are the consequences of OCD? And how can counselling help me?
If you would like to learn more about OCD, then read on.
Definitions of OCD:
Obsessive compulsive disorder is characterised by “…unreasonable thoughts and fears (obsessions) that lead you to do repetitive behaviours (compulsions)” (Mayo Clinic, 2010).
Cases of OCD:
- The most common types of obsessions –> compulsions include:-
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Work-Related Stress
Posted in Anxiety, Bullying, Counselling, Exam Stress, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Resolutions, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Anxiety, Bullying, Career, Consequences, Counselling, Debt, Demands, Depression, Discrimination, Exclusion, Fear, Health, Identity, Isolation, Mental health, Pressure, Status, Stress, Supervision, Understanding, Work, Work-Life Balance on March 19, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Stress is a ‘normal’ part of everyday life. The majority of us have experienced mild-moderate stress or anxiety at some time during the course of our ‘normal’ day-to-day routine. However, experiencing a higher frequency and intensity of stress repeatedly has the potential to result in all manner ill-health, particularly if stress in the workplace is not addressed for a prolonged length of time.
What is work-related stress? What are the most common types of work-related stress? What are the common causes? What are some of the consequences of stress in the workplace? And how can counselling help me?
If you would like to know some of the answers to these questions, then read on.
Definitions of stress:
The Oxford dictionary of Psychology defines stress as “Psychological and physical strain or tension generated by physical, emotional, social, economic, or occupational circumstances, events, or experiences that are difficult to manage or endure” (Colman, 2001).
Types of Work-Related Stress:
- Acute stress
- Acute episodic stress
- Chronic stress
Common Causes of Work-Related Stress:
Best wishes, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc, BSc, MBACP, MBPsS) RRS Counselling Services www.rrs.counselling.co.ukRRS Counselling Services © 2012. All Rights Reserved.
Addiction
Posted in Anxiety, Beginnings, Bullying, Counselling, Endings, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, OCD, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Addiction, Alcohol, Anxiety, Bullying, Coping Startegies, Counselling, CPD, Dependency, Diary, Drug, Exploration, Loss, Relationships, Self-esteem, Specialist Service, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Trauma, Understanding, Unemployment, Work, Workshops on February 27, 2012| Leave a Comment »
What is Addiction? What are the most common causes? What are the consequences? And how can counselling help me?
Definition of Addiction:
“A state of dependency on a chemical substance, especially on a drug such as alcohol, nicotine, or caffeine, or a narcotic such as morphine or heroine, characterized by a strong physiological and/or psychological need and a compulsive inability to resist taking the drug despite anticipation of probable adverse consequences, withdrawal if there is an abrupt deprivation of the substance, and in some cases drug tolerance .” (Oxford dictionary of Psychology, 2003).
Common causes of Addiction:
There is no single cause of addiction. Some of the risk factors may include:-
- genetic predisposition
- poverty
- lack of education
- unemployment
- peer pressure
- bullying
- trauma
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc, BSc, MBACP, MBPsS)
RRS Counselling Services
http://www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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Peer Pressure
Posted in Anxiety, Counselling, Face-to-Face, Help, Mental Health, Online, Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, RRS Counselling Services, Self-esteem, Stress, Supervision, Support, Training, Uncertainty, Work-Life Balance, tagged Alienation, Anxiety, Avoidance, Beliefs, Bullying, Challenge, Change, Consequences, Exclusion, Fear, Gang, Insecurity, Isolation, Loneliness, Norms, Peer Pressure, Reinforcement, Risk, Role model, Social, Values on February 20, 2012| Leave a Comment »
What is peer pressure? What are the most common signs of bad peer pressure? What are the consequences of bad peer pressure? Can there be good peer pressure? And how can counselling help me?
If you would like to learn more about peer pressure, then read on.
Definitions of Peer Pressure:
Peer Pressure can be defined as “the perceived social influence of one’s peers on one self in terms of thoughts, feelings and behaviours considered to be ‘norms’ of the peer group” (Roxana Rudzik-Shaw, #RRScounselling).
Types of Peer Pressure:
- We often hear about bad peer pressure that has many negative consequences:-
- Verbal (e.g. to be involved with teasing, name-calling, threats, rumour spreading, etc)
- Physical (e.g. to engage in physical harm, actual bodily harm, fighting, domestic violence, risk-taking behaviour, vandalism, drinking alcohol, experimenting with drugs, shoplifting, etc)
- Emotional/Psychological (e.g. to accept and become involved in social exclusion, gossip, rumours, etc)
- There can also be good peer pressure with positive outcomes:-
- Support (e.g. Pushing a peer/friend into making a good, positive decision, or to try something new that they wouldn’t have done otherwise, such as exercising, eating healthy, etc)
- Reinforcement of Positive Behaviour (e.g. challenging negative thinking or behaviours that may have otherwise been carried out and had negative consequences, such as self-harm)
Common signs of Bad Peer Pressure:
Best wishes,
Roxana Rudzik-Shaw (MSc (Dist), BSc (dual hons), MBACP, MBPsS, ACTO)
RRS Counselling Services
www.rrs.counselling.co.uk
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